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Life is Happening

posted February 11, 2015 by Moms in Tow (Kara)

I totally stole that from a friend's neighbor.

We were doing a moms night out of prepping frozen meals (with Wildtree: I swear by the Kids Cheese Blend) and my friend's neighbor came late and not prepared to make her meals. The first thing she said as she walked in to the door is "Life is happening right now". 

Something immediatly clicked with every mom there. It was also just so refreshing to hear from a woman, I didn't even know, that "life is happening". It was such a relief to be reminded that we don't need to have it all together. Life is going to happen, and there is nothing we can do about it. We will get through it, even if we stumble, things will be ok. There are going to be times where we are overwhelmed by the things in and out of our control: and we can choose to get completely stressed out about it, or just say "life is happening" and do your best to roll with it.

I think that too many of us have our relationships with other moms completely backwards. I can't tell you how many times I have felt like I needed to impress the moms around me- when i knew perfectly well that they were the only people who would truly understand. Deep down we know that that the "perfect" mom we all pretend to be doesn't exist.

How about the crazy idea that we can instead choose to support each other, admit when we are struggling: even to the moms we don't even know. It may just be the easiest way to break through and connect with someone. That doesn't mean that we complain about all the things going wrong. I think it means we have permission to see the good in the struggles, to try to let go and enjoy.

 

Our daughter is turning two in less than a week, and I am already realizing that time is flying by way too fast. I have been really trying to slow down, stop trying to rush her through the store or the sidewalk, let her enjoy and learn at her own speed, look at the experience from her perspective. 

I am also constantly squeezing her into clothes that are really too small her, and it takes me way too long to realize that she is growing and there is nothing I can do about it. My husband needs to constantly remind me to stop helping her with things, because she is completely capable of doing something herself. But I just want her to need me, so I have convinced myself that my almost two year old is incapable of something as simple as climbing on to the couch on her own.

"Life is happening" - they are growing up, and we can choose to rush through it / hold on too tight / or just try to enjoy it as it comes.

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  • February 16, 2015 at 9:56pm
    by Rachel Billings

    So true!

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